Welcome to iWaited Land!

Hello Waiters!

I pray that your day is going well. I wanted to update you on what’s going on in iWaited land.

Devotional: As you all know, I released a Purity devotional this past April and the testimonies have been amazing! You can grab your copy HERE. It’s available in both physical and kindle copy.

T-shirts: We also have various T-shirts on sale. You can purchase them HERE. The company that I go through, Spreadshirt, has a really quick turnaround time and great customer service. A few of the designs are posted below.

Speaking: I’ve had the privilege of speaking at various Purity events and conferences and it’s been a blessing.  Request for booking can be sent to iWaitedBlog at gmail dot com.

YouTube: We also have a YouTube channel and there are various interviews, panels and inspirational videos up. Check it out HERE. Find a couple of interviews below.

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The one guy single ladies should avoid…

…Unless he explicitly expresses interest in you.

Hello iWaited Family!

This is not your typical avoid him because he’s a liar, cheater, dog etc post.

The guy I’m talking about is the super nice, genuine, friendly and all around good guy. Now you may be asking yourself, why should I avoid this guy?

Let’s get right into it, shall we?

There are times where we as women–if we haven’t had the greatest experience with men or just haven’t had men treat us well just because–we can often misinterpret a good guy’s genuine kindness. Yes, there are men out there that open the door for you just because. Yes, there are men who will compliment you with no ulterior motive. Yes, there are men who will pump your gas for you if he’s in your car when you stop for gas. Yes, there are men who were just raised well. Period. They were taught to treat women well and with genuine respect.

So here you are going about your life and run across one of these men at your office, at church etc. You think to yourself, he’s cordial, super attentive, chivalrous and if he’s handsome…forget about it! You’ve married him, bought a house and had two of his children, in your head. If we’re not careful, our false expectations will set us up for failure and possible heartbreak.

A lot of us didn’t grow up receiving male attention just because. If men were paying attention to us, it was because they wanted something from us. As a young girl, this can greatly skew your view of what male attention should entail. You can either begin to negatively assume that all men have an ulterior motive or you put unrealistic pressure on men who’ve been innocently cordial. These scenarios tend to have two-way ramifications. Women have the potential to shut down because they don’t trust their instincts or ability to discern a man’s intentions. And the nice guys may begin to shut down in an attempt to not confuse the women.   

Once we made it to college, every time a guy was super nice to us, we automatically assumed he liked us and wanted to date us. Can you guess how many times we got our heart broken? We would then make that guy out to be the bad guy but he had nothing to do with our wounded emotions, broken heart or our misinterpretation of his actions.

My advice to other women would be to allow men to be nice to us. Allow them to be chivalrous. That’s who they’re supposed to be. And until a man expresses outright interest in you, he is not interested. It’s very simple. Men are very intentional. When they want something or someone, they make their intentions known. You’re never going to have to guess how a man feels about you unless his poker face game is strong. So, when we as women assume that a man wants us without hearing him express this, we set ourselves up for major disappointment.

We also have to deal with the unhealthy expectations that we’ve grown up with. Pray about why a man being nice seems out of the norm for you. Ask yourself how you can begin to change how you view men, their actions and their intentions. Another wise thing to do is to get into therapy or counseling. Get the help of an objective person who can help you talk through past traumas. Once we take off the rose tinted glasses from our past, we can begin to see people and situations for what they really are.

Assumptions and non-communication of intentions need to go away. We as women have to learn to temper our expectations of men who haven’t expressed any interest in pursuing us. Singles ladies, you’re going to get the good guy but not every good guy is YOUR good guy.

Comment below and let me know if this post hit home for you. Love y’all!

Have a question? Have a suggestion? Need prayer? Email me at iWaitedBlog@gmail.com

Your future marriage will NOT fail!

If you’re like me and didn’t grow up seeing healthy marriages or marriages at all then you can sometimes have this secret fear that you won’t succeed in being married.

I’ve had to anchor myself in the truth that my marriage will be rooted in the truth of God as our foundation. God’s peace will keep you IF you want to be kept. You have to make a decision to trust God in this season and the next and the next.

To the woman/man who’s afraid your future marriage will fail…It 👏🏾 will 👏🏾 NOT!

“You will guard him and keep him in perfect and constant peace whose mind [both its inclination and its character] is stayed on You, because he commits himself to You, leans on You, and hopes confidently in You. So trust in the Lord (commit yourself to Him, lean on Him, hope confidently in Him) forever; for the Lord God is an everlasting Rock [the Rock of Ages].” Isaiah 26:3-4 AMPC

Submission starts before marriage.

I was reading Ephesians 5 and came to verse 22 where it says, “Wives, be subject (be submissive and adapt yourselves) to your own husbands as [a service] to the Lord.” Ephesians 5:22 AMPC.

I reread the last part that said: “as a service to the Lord”. And I thought hmmm, submitting to my future husband will be like serving God?? I don’t know about you, but I have a genuine desire to serve God well. And I can’t lie and say that my service is always the bomb.

Do you know how we get to the place where we can submit to our future husbands well and in a way that honors God? By submitting to God now in our singleness. By serving God well now in our singleness. The lightbulb of submission doesn’t suddenly turn on once your husband slides the wedding band on your finger and you say “I do”.

You learn how to submit to your husband by first submitting to the Lover of your Soul. Submit to Him in your mind. Submit to Him in your finances. Submit to Him concerning your future and destiny.

I’ve been doing a lot of groundwork now while I’m single so that my transition into courtship and marriage will be a little smoother. Start doing the work now. Your husband will thank you for it.

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Men in Waiting Interview with JimDre Westbrook of Worth The Wait Guy

Morning Waiters!

Have you caught the latest interview with our Man in Waiting JimDre Westbrook? He’s better known as Worth The Wait Guy and has been featured on the Steve Harvey Show and various other media outlets.

It was really cool to get to speak to JimDre and plus he’s pretty funny which made for a fun interview. He has an app out called the Wait Up App, check it out.

Check out the interview below! Let me know your thoughts by commenting. Please share and like the video! Can’t wait for your feedback. Love y’all!

Men in Waiting Interview with Chad Johnson of Elevate International

Good morning iWaited Family!!

I’m so excited about the latest release in our Men in Waiting series on our YouTube channel. I got the chance to interview Chad Johnson of Elevate International.

Chad was super down to earth and really a joy to interview. Check out the interview below! Let me know your thoughts by commenting. Please share and like the video! Can’t wait for your feedback. Love y’all!

https://youtu.be/NkB-S4OYYz4

21 Days of Prayer and Purity-Day 21 Purity of Money

iWaited Family!!

Today is the last day of the Prayer and Purity Challenge! Can you believe it?? God is so amazing. This devotional has been a huge reminder of what it really means to walk in purity. God wants to protect us. He sets things in place in order to give us a life that will not only honor Him but also a life that’s filled with abundance. There’s an abundance that can only stem from our obedience to God.

If you went through the devotional with me or on your own, please let me know how it went for you. I will do this challenge again. Love you all!

How’s the devotional coming for you? Comment below.

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21 Days of Prayer and Purity-Day 20 Purity of Money

Hey iWaited Family,

Today we’re discussing purity in your money. This one especially hit home because I’m currently in place where God is challenging me to trust Him in my finances. I’m so used to do things on my own and figuring it out. Trusting God with every aspect of my life, is really unnerving. I don’t have an issue paying my tithes and offering but when it comes to trusting God to supernaturally provide for projects He’s putting in my heart, now that is a different story. I’m still working through this.

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21 Days of Prayer and Purity-Day 17 & 18 Purity of the Body/Loins

Hello iWaited Family!

I’m back with day 17 and 18. Today we’re discussing the purity of our body and loins. Our body is normally what we think of first when discussing purity. And we always think in terms of sex but another way that we can keep our body pure is by eating right and working out. In the past month or so, I made a conscious effort to work out and eat right. Now, I’m a sweets junkie so I fall off the wagon a lot when it comes to food. I literally end my workout and the first thing I think about is going to Krispy Kreme. But I am making a concerted effort to not only protect my sexual purity but to protect the purity of my health as well.

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21 Days of Prayer and Purity-Day 12 & 13 Purity of the Ears

Hello iWaited Family!

Days 12 & 13 were sooo good! I realized that I haven’t been as discerning as I needed to be concerning what I was taking in audibly. That includes internal and external voices. I’ve allowed the enemy to speak defeat over me and I’ve accepted it. And I’ve listened to things that aren’t uplifting to my spirit. So as I read the devotionals for both days, the lightbulb went off. What I’m listening to is affecting me, my life and my mood. I want God’s voice to be the loudest voice I hear, how about you??

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